On Opening Presents Early

“Christmas was a sacrament observed with the exchange of gifts, when the stockings were hung, and the spruce tree was lighted in the symbol of Christian faith and love. While there was plenty of hard work, there was no lack of pleasurable diversion” (Calvin Coolidge, The Autobiography, p.30).

It was on this day eighty-eight years ago that the President’s eagerness for Christmas overcame his usual self-restraint. Though the Chief of Mails, Ira Smith, would not have said anything, it seems someone did — and told the newspapers. The next day, the story recounted that Coolidge not only ignored the “Don’t Open Until Christmas” injunction but, as was his custom, returned from his morning walk to visit the mail room for any “mails” that had come in for him. The story recounts that upon looking over the packages due to be sent to the White House, he saw two items with handwriting he recognized. Breaking into them, he was contented to see what each contained and could then go about the day’s work.

Biographers have noted Coolidge’s proclivity for sweets and snacks, the President regularly appearing in the White House kitchen or the Mail Room in order to investigate firsthand what was there: be it fruits and nuts, jams and pastries, anything from which he could munch. As he said in The Autobiography, “Almost everything than can be eaten comes. We always know what to do with that” (p.222).

It was as President Coolidge prepared to leave Washington for Christmas in 1928, exemplifying an exceptionally jovial spirit, that he informed the press he would be leaving on “Christmas Day, December 24.” When the room broke out in laughter, he followed with, “When is Christmas?” One of the journalists, completely unacquainted with his subject’s dry wit, answered seriously that the 24th was Christmas Eve. Coolidge, without skipping a beat, responded with a smile: “Well, I always tried to have Christmas on two days, the 24th and 25th, when I was a boy.”

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“There’s your answer”

It was a rare occasion that Calvin Coolidge made a good first impression. The first time his future wife saw him may be the greatest exception to the rule. On that occasion, he was seen shaving in front of a mirror with hat precisely fixed atop his head, in order, as he later explained, to keep an unruly strand of hair out of his way. It is interesting to recall that Mrs. Coolidge would find him with sleeves rolled and accoutrements in order for shaving on the day he passed away. He went as she had first met him.

Yet, not even those among his closest friends could honestly deny the disappointment each one felt upon first meeting the man. Being soundly recommended to them, Coolidge seemed to be neither engaged in their cause nor concerned with creating the perception that he was. Coolidge conveyed the diametric opposite of what is supposed to work in politics. The mentality is so prevalent that even the person sincerely and selflessly making request of an elected official expects the perception of concern as much, if not more, than actual results. Mr. Stearns was one such sincere petitioner who began what became an immovable friendship angry at the young Senator Coolidge for appearing indifferent to Amherst and his request. When the opportunity presented to take up the matter again the following year, Mr. Stearns was stunned to discover that Coolidge had not only passed the bill but added carefully crafted provisions for which the older man had not thought to ask! Such began Mr. Stearns’ quest to see Coolidge raised to national leadership.

Frank Waterman Stearns, A Real Friend (1856-1939), as Horace Green features him in The Life of Calvin Coolidge, 1924.

Frank Waterman Stearns, A Real Friend (1856-1939), as Horace Green features him in The Life of Calvin Coolidge, 1924.

Others, like his Amherst classmate Dwight Morrow, saw what was not so obvious to most about Coolidge. While a majority of their class voted for Morrow as the one most likely to succeed, he gave his first (and the lone vote of the class of 1895) for Coolidge. His wife and college sweetheart, Elizabeth, did not share his insightful impression of the man from Vermont. Meeting the Coolidges at an Amherst reunion, Mrs. Morrow simply could not see what Dwight (and Grace even more so) saw in “that sulky, red-headed little man.” Her husband countered, “Don’t be too hasty, Betty. We’ll hear from that man Coolidge some day.” “Yes,” she quickly retorted, “we’ll hear from him–but we’ll hear from him through his wife.”

As Mrs. Morrow would write in 1935, “I couldn’t have known then that my husband and I would both be right.”

The power of Coolidge’s personality and character left an imprint not readily visible or appreciated, especially from the first visit. As is often the case, the perceptive abilities of children to weigh what was important from inconsequential, to discern kindness and compassion in others, even in the smallest and usually underestimated ways, presents a truer grasp of the man as he genuinely was. Children tend to be the first to detect the fake and fraudulent. Three occasions of Coolidge’s impression on children illustrate not simply a political ploy but emphasize who he actually was, a good and thoughtful man who cared for people. To Coolidge, even the smallest and youngest individuals had great worth and significance.

First, the Morrows having been to see the Coolidges before the police strike boarded the train home to New York. On the way they got into a discussion with those in their drawing room about the political future of Governor Coolidge. While Mr. Morrow saw Presidential potential in the man, nearly everyone else simply did not see it. He was “too quiet” lacking the “cordiality and personality” to go anywhere beyond Boston. “No one would like him!” someone announced. Mrs. Morrow writes, “At this point little Anne [their second eldest, age six at the time] broke into the serious discussion. She held up a finger that had a bit of adhesive tape on it over a little cut. ‘I like Mr. Coolidge,’ she said. ‘He was the only one who asked about my sore finger!’ My husband, quite pleased, of course, looked at his friends and said, ‘There’s your answer.’ ”

Anne Morrow, age 12.

Anne Morrow, age 12.

Second, Ernestine Cady Perry had worked for the law office of Coolidge and Hemenway in Northampton for some time. As Mr. Coolidge rose from local to national responsibility, he never forgot who he was or the people he knew and missed back home. Once in the White House, he took the time to send signed photographs to Mrs. Perry’s two little daughters. In fact, they would overhear so many good qualities attributed to kind Mr. Coolidge that one of them, Jane, at age five, took her mother by surprise upon asking, “Would it be better if I had Calvin Coolidge for a daddy instead of my own daddy?” Such a question, asked in the innocence of her age, still carries an insight into the endearing character of Calvin Coolidge and the wholesome regard even the youngest held for him.

Third, Edward K. Hall worked for many years as a vice president of the American Telephone and Telegraph Company in personnel relations. A graduate of Darmouth, Mr. Hall came to be recognized for his superior qualities of leadership in labor disputes. In 1924, his eldest son, Richard, died suddenly after illness struck just a few hours earlier. It was President Coolidge, having just lost his youngest son, Calvin Jr., after only a few short days of sickness, who sent a book with this inscription to comfort the similarly grieving father:

“To Edward K. Hall: In recollection of his son and my son, who had the privilege by the grace of God to be boys through all eternity. Calvin Coolidge.”

Memorial tablet for Richard Neville Hall, the son of Edward K. and Sally D. Hall. It rests in the foyer of Baker Library at Dartmouth College.

Memorial tablet for Dartmouth sophomore Richard Hall, the son of Edward K. and Sally D. Hall.

The President's son, Calvin Jr. (1908-1924)

The President’s son, Calvin Jr. (1908-1924)

It was that same Mr. Coolidge who, upon receiving a small boy Colonel Starling had found waiting to see him outside the White House gates, having come to console him after Calvin Jr.’s death, told Starling, barely able to contain his emotions: “Colonel, whenever a boy wants to see me always bring him in. Never turn one away or make him wait” (Starling of the White House p.224).

Clarence S. Brigham of the American Antiquarian Society noted Coolidge’s love for people, particularly cherishing the innocent goodness of our children. He valued the least among us and took joy in the presence of the happy and appreciated lives of little ones. It was he who once said, “I should not want to think of heaven without children there.” In offering a few final words in memory of his friend, the thirtieth president, Mr. Brigham wrote:

“I think that Mr. Coolidge’s outstanding trait was his kindness and his sympathy. He never forgot a friend and had a surprising habit of remembering trivial happenings, if they concerned those whom he liked and trusted. He had the faculty of inspiring a really fond affection from those with whom he was closely brought into contact. His character was so strongly made up of honesty, fairness, adherence to ideals, and courage, that they stood out above other qualities throughout his whole life. Truly, a man with a soul which looked inwards and tried to interpret the mysteries of life, whose own life was given to serve his fellow men, must live forever in the hearts of the people.”

“That hat’s valuable!”

ImageIt is an unfortunate assumption all too often made that reserved people are cold, unfeeling and lack basic kindness. Calvin Coolidge is all too easily lumped in this category because he never conveyed the gregarious, slap-on-the-back, “good ol’ boy” transparency that readily lends itself to be understood by and comfortable to most folks. The real Calvin Coolidge, to those who knew him, was far less the “silent,” non-amiable, even prickly persona he exuded to those who were themselves obtuse or narrow-minded. In truth, Coolidge was an exceptionally kind, thoughtful and generous man. His depth of sentiment for people was genuine. To those closest to him, Coolidge could dominate a conversation when the subject caught his interest and his interests were surprisingly broad.

A diligent and devoted Director on the New York Life Insurance Board, Calvin Coolidge rarely missed a meeting and truly invested himself in service to people as he worked. “Mr. Coolidge was a gracious and genial mixer,” his good friend, Thomas A. Buckner once wrote. Arriving early to the latest meeting of the Board, Coolidge took his seat beside Mr. Buckner. A moment later brought a photographer, who asked permission to take their picture. As he prepared for the camera, Coolidge placed his inexpensive, time-worn hat on the stone coping beside him and went on talking. While they waited for the photographer, the room began filling with agents, managers and Directors each piling their hats atop Mr. Coolidge’s. Anxiously seeing the tired old hat he had worn for so many years quickly buried by all the others, he could not sit still any longer. He “darted for the pile” and retrieved it, quickly returning to his seat beside Mr. Buckner.

“I might have lost it. It’s valuable,” the former President said with a twinkle in his eye, holding the tired hat sentimentally just as the photographer snapped their picture. Both men, caught grinning at the remark, took joy in the humor — and sentiment — of the moment. Yet, as Mr. Buckner knew, Calvin Coolidge exemplified more than a feeling for old, familiar things, he cherished people. He manifested a constant and sincere compassion even for those he had never met.

Mr. Buckner explains it best,

“Those of us who came near to Mr. Coolidge knew that his reserve and taciturnity covered a generous nature which might otherwise have been imposed upon by self-seekers. He was always willing to lend a helping hand to others, no matter how humble…[O]ne day Mr. Coolidge entered our home office carrying an enormous bundle. He explained that young man from Newark would call for it and that it would be returned a month hence, at which time Mr. Coolidge would pick it up. The size of the bundle,” Mr. Buckner continued, provoked the curiosity of the secretary, who “asked Mr. Coolidge what it contained.

“He explained that an ambitious young man had entered a contest for window displays, and that he had asked for something from the old Vermont farm. Although the young man did not know Mr. Coolidge personally, his enterprise evidently carried a strong appeal. Mr. Coolidge had therefore carried to New York and generously loaned a bed quilt made by his grandmother many years ago.”

Of all the objects on the farm to give away with the risk of damage, loss or outright theft, Mr. Coolidge could have presented a meaningless trinket devoid of personal or family meaning. As Grace discovered, Coolidge had sewn his own quilt at age ten from whatever material he could scrounge from around the house. Perhaps it was all inspired by his grandmother’s work. Either way, he prized the results produced by his family’s loving hands. He could have chosen some much smaller, far less significant object to grant the young man’s request. He simply did not do that. Instead, he willingly bestowed an item of irreplaceable value: the precious handiwork of grandmother Coolidge. Moreover, he brought it down from the remote countryside of Plymouth to a place infinitely more convenient to this complete stranger than it was for him. He was merely helping someone in what way he could.

“Calvin Coolidge had a deep love for humanity. He is greatly missed, but his spirit remains with us” (Thomas A. Buckner, “Why Director Coolidge Carried a Quilt,” Good Housekeeping, April 1935, p.206).